The Village 

 

Maybe a child is not being raised by a “Village” but it would be nice if he or she was. Apart from a very small minority of parents who keep their children close and Home School, think of the number of adults and other children that are in a typical child’s life….

Child care educators, teachers, doctors, dentists, and other health professionals, shop keepers, entertainers, posties (think of the Postie who gives the letters to the pre-schooler with an encouraging comment), and many more. And that doesn’t include all the relatives and friends of the parents.

Considering to what degree humans are social beings, and how frequently they choose to live in groups, it seems an obvious statement that “it takes a village to raise a child”.

Culturally, in some groups, the grandparents do a lot of the child care whilst the parents work.  In other cultures the younger women work together with the children in groups whilst the men work.

Here in Australia we have many cultures so that there are many different parenting styles but I feel many parents today lack supports.

In our society, things have changed a lot since I was a child.  When my Mother, the main care giver,  needed assistance, one of her sisters or sister-in-laws would step in and help. They all lived in relative close proximity to each other.  Now many parents live a long distance or time from other family members, and both parents are working.

The take home message: use the Village as much as you need to. There’s no disgrace in getting assistance with raising your child be it information, advice or child care. A more rested or calmer parent is a happier parent, and a happier parent is a better parent.